I’ve learned about grief this week, realizing how important it is to have my people around me when I can’t find my feet, how much I take for granted, and how little control I really have over anything.
And I’ve been reminded anew of the blessings of children. It’s nearly impossible to be depressed for long in the company of a two-year-old.
An example: we went to Dunkin Donuts on Saturday. Instead of her usual favorite (pink frosting with sprinkles), Alden opted for a Bavarian Kreme (Seiko’s perennial favorite).
One of my favorite outings has always been heading to Dunkin Donuts with Alden and returning with a Bavarian Kreme and small cappuccino for Seiko. Every time, without exception, I was greeted with Seiko’s shining smile and heartfelt thanks. She enjoyed the little things. Making her happy was one of my purest pleasures.
The donut was well received and enthusiastically consumed with no small amount of powdered sugar spread about the premises. It was a small connection from Alden to Seiko that brought me comfort and filled me with pleasant memories.
Thank you all for your kind thoughts and recollections of Seiko. Thank you for your love and offerings. It has meant so much to all of us to be reminded how many lives she touched, and continues to.
Hi! :) Don’t really know what to say in a moment like this, but I just wanted to say HI and Hello that’s all. Please tell your dad the same thing for me.
Deepest love and thoughts to you and Robbi. Jen and Simon
When you posted the photo of Seiko and baby Alden, I noted that they had the same mouth. And so this post, having to do with what goes in that beautiful mouth, makes me smile.
I am thinking of you all so much. God bless.
Matthew,
Not for the first time, you’ve made me weep. I continue to feel for all of you. I should be comforting you, but you comfort me.
Hi Matthew and Robbi,
I’m not surprised, Matthew, that you once again see the poetry in life via this Dunkin’ Donuts trip. I think children are wonderful healers as well, reminding us of life as a whole. Us Everetts went to the Zoo this past weekend, first time since we went with you in the spring. I have really not stopped thinking about all of you and somehow being at the zoo gave me a chance to feel closer to you all even just by way of the memories of our visit together (even though it was hot and so crowded that day). Remember we ran into your sister? Small funny world we live in. Please keep sharing your life poetry when you’re up for it–it heals the rest of us too.
Hope you all are hanging in there. You are all in my thoughts constantly, though having spent so many Thanksgivings with the Behrs, I always think of Bob and Seiko often at this time of year. Our best to all of you. And tell Bob that I hope to get the chance to watch figure skating with him again sometime soon.
i have said it before and it bears saying here again,
“donuts…is there anything the can’t do?”